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Lest you get the wrong idea, romance is not all about the physical sex act. Men and women certainly think differently on this.
When a man thinks of romance or intimacy, he often thinks of the physical act of intercourse and/or orgasms. When a
woman thinks of romance, she connects it to the full range of the relationship and all of the dynamics that exist there.
Men, get your focus off of yourself and back on her. When you only see your woman as an object of your sexual release, you
fail to recognize the depth of her personality, the beauty of her “person”, how wonderful and lovely the real “woman” is, and
therefore you are unable to enjoy the true romance and intimacy that could be had in your relationship.
You see, a man can have the physical act of sex regardless if he just had a fight with his woman. Whereas, the woman
normally need to be feeling good about the relationship before she is ready to give herself in an intimate fashion to the man.
The man is more interested in conquering and getting on with things. He got his fulfillment even if he left the woman feeling
somewhat humiliated and violated because he does not value her as a woman. He just sees her as a sexual fixture so to speak.
If he is in the bed with her for 30 minutes, the other 23-1/2 hours of the day he may speak harshly to her, not be helpful, not
care about her desires, dreams, hurts, what makes her fulfilled, etc. He may also be unfaithful in a variety of ways, including
masturbation, looking at porn, and illegitimate affairs. So basically, when he treats her this way she sees that he only wants
one little part of who she is but he does not care about the other 99% of her that really matters!
Men, you take care of the 99% portion, and you will have a woman on your hands that is the most desirable, beautiful, and
lovely person that you could imagine!!! She will love to be intimate and romantic with you. Her tendency will not be to give
you the cold shoulder.
Romance is all about valuing the woman, making her feel loved and secure in the relationship. It’s about her knowing that
you cherish and honor her. There’s no one else but her. She has no competition. When you speak of her to others it’s with
tender terms of affection.
Picture yourself being given a priceless vase. Your task is to carry it for the rest of your life and never harm it in any way. You
are to protect it even with your life! Its value is so high that nobody can place a high enough price on it. Men, your woman is
that vase. You are to treasure her as a priceless vessel and cherish her. Begin to look at her that way and then begin to treat her
that way. Watch what happens to your relationship. You will thank us many times over for this tidbit of advice!
So, how can you “romance” your woman, men? Let us try to offer some real practical ideas. These are not rocket science, just
simple, every day thoughtful acts that you can do for her that will let her know that you are serious about her and the
relationship. Men, these suggestions must come from a heart of love for your precious wife, not just "going through the
motions"! She is so worth it!!
• What does she enjoy for breakfast? Surprise her a couple of times a week with a wonderful wakeup call and a simple
breakfast in bed. Maybe it’s just a good cup of coffee and her favorite jam on toast. I bring my wife a cup of coffee while
she’s in bed every morning.
• How about right before going to bed you give her a tender back rub and tell her how much she means to you. Then
embrace her and go off to sleep without any other expectations
• Open the door for her, whether it’s the car or home or when you are out. When you go out to eat, seat her first by
pulling out the chair for her. Make sure she is comfortable first, before you sit down. Ask her for her order then order
for her.
• After dinner, clean off the table and do the dishes. Invite her to take a rest. Make sure you thanked her for the good
meal.
• Do you have children? Spend time with them playing and having fun. Play games, go on walks and bike rides. Spend
time talking with them and enjoying that relationship. Get on the floor and color, wrestle, make tents, etc.
• Make it a rule that you never, under any circumstances, speak unkindly to her, whether face to face or out in public to
others. Learn to control yourself if you have a temper. Speak kindly to her, with deep respect and admiration.
• Stop the porn and looking at other women!!! If you want to throw cold water on your relationship, keep those things
up. A woman feels violated and humiliated when she feels that your eyes and heart chase after other women… especially
those air-brushed babes in magazines that truly don’t even exist. She can’t compete with them, nor should she feel the
need to!
• What is her favorite dessert? If you can’t make it, go buy it and bring it home. Enjoy some quiet time in the evening with
the dessert, coffee, and good conversation.
• Find out what are her dreams and desires. What would she like to see fulfilled in her life. Then, begin to take some steps
to make that happen.
• Ask your woman, “What would make you feel truly loved, cherished, and honored”. Tell her that you want to know
because you realize that you probably don’t do a real good job in these areas and want to improve.
• Help around the house. Don’t make her a slave to the washing machine, vacuum cleaner, stove, ironing board. Get on
your hands and knees and wash the floor, help out with other household chores.
• Buy some small scented candles and nice bubble bath. Send your woman an e-mail or call her and let her know that you
want her to free up an hour to take a nice hot bubble bath. Put the candles in the bathroom and light them. Draw the
water for her with bubble bath. Put on romantic music. Put some magazines in there for her to look at. While she is
soaking, find a task that you can do to lighten her load.
• When you are in public, hold her hand, put your arm around her. Show others that she is your woman and you are her
man. You are taken up with her and find her altogether lovely.
• Let her catch you staring at her, whether at home or in public. Eye her up and down and let her know how desirable she
is to you.
• Does she enjoy plays, operas, chick-flicks, etc.? Invite her to go out for the evening for a good meal and an event that she
would enjoy.
• Quit taking up so much time with your sports, bar hopping, and continuous guy stuff. You don’t have to stop all of it
totally. But you are probably spending more time on yourself than on her.
• Be her best friend. Develop a totally open and honest relationship with her. Don’t do something in secret that you know
would hurt her or that would make her feel less than honored and loved by you if she were to find out.
• Remember how to ask forgiveness and admit when you have done wrong. Let her know you are truly sorry for
inappropriate actions or words.
• Does she have a particular hobby? Buy a subscription to a magazine that focuses on that hobby. Watch for seminars and
trade shows related to her area of interest and make time to take her.
• Listen to her when she casually mentions something that she really wants. Write it down. Try to find a way to get it for
her and surprise her for no particular reason.
• Learn to be a giver, not a taker. Find at least 3 things that you can do every day to show her how special she is to you.
Every day find several things to genuinely compliment her on. Don’t be fake, she will see right through that!
• Play a board game, card game or put together a puzzle with her. She will appreciate the time with you and some great
laughter and conversation will probably pop up.
• Buy her something intimate and special. Highlight her beauty in ways that is very honoring to her. Make her feel
beautiful and adored.
• Help her by offering to do her nails, brushing her hair, setting out some clothing or lingerie for her. These little items will
be very special for her. You will have a good time doing it!
• Does she like a particular type of candy or chocolate? When you are out, stop in a store and see if they have what she
likes. Put a red ribbon around it with a nice card or note letting her know that you are crazy about her.
• Offer to run errands for her. Give her some time to herself to relax and maybe do something that she has been wanting to
do.
• Give good-bye and greeting kisses and embraces. You can carry those with you throughout the day.
• Send romantic e-mails. If you do it from work, be careful that you are not violating any workplace rules.
• Read to her. I don’t know a woman that does not like to hear her man’s voice when he is reading to her. It’s another
level of communication that she will love.
• Massage her feet. She will really enjoy the intimate attention.
• If you have children, take them out for the day and give her some time to herself.
• Bring home some fresh flowers, perfume, or her favorite bath oils or soaps.
• Buy scented candles or incense to create a wonderful mood.
• Put love notes where she will look; lingerie drawer, on bathroom mirror, on her dashboard, on her pillow, in her
purse, etc.
When a man thinks of romance or intimacy, he often thinks of the physical act of intercourse and/or orgasms. When a
woman thinks of romance, she connects it to the full range of the relationship and all of the dynamics that exist there.
Men, get your focus off of yourself and back on her. When you only see your woman as an object of your sexual release, you
fail to recognize the depth of her personality, the beauty of her “person”, how wonderful and lovely the real “woman” is, and
therefore you are unable to enjoy the true romance and intimacy that could be had in your relationship.
You see, a man can have the physical act of sex regardless if he just had a fight with his woman. Whereas, the woman
normally need to be feeling good about the relationship before she is ready to give herself in an intimate fashion to the man.
The man is more interested in conquering and getting on with things. He got his fulfillment even if he left the woman feeling
somewhat humiliated and violated because he does not value her as a woman. He just sees her as a sexual fixture so to speak.
If he is in the bed with her for 30 minutes, the other 23-1/2 hours of the day he may speak harshly to her, not be helpful, not
care about her desires, dreams, hurts, what makes her fulfilled, etc. He may also be unfaithful in a variety of ways, including
masturbation, looking at porn, and illegitimate affairs. So basically, when he treats her this way she sees that he only wants
one little part of who she is but he does not care about the other 99% of her that really matters!
Men, you take care of the 99% portion, and you will have a woman on your hands that is the most desirable, beautiful, and
lovely person that you could imagine!!! She will love to be intimate and romantic with you. Her tendency will not be to give
you the cold shoulder.
Romance is all about valuing the woman, making her feel loved and secure in the relationship. It’s about her knowing that
you cherish and honor her. There’s no one else but her. She has no competition. When you speak of her to others it’s with
tender terms of affection.
Picture yourself being given a priceless vase. Your task is to carry it for the rest of your life and never harm it in any way. You
are to protect it even with your life! Its value is so high that nobody can place a high enough price on it. Men, your woman is
that vase. You are to treasure her as a priceless vessel and cherish her. Begin to look at her that way and then begin to treat her
that way. Watch what happens to your relationship. You will thank us many times over for this tidbit of advice!
So, how can you “romance” your woman, men? Let us try to offer some real practical ideas. These are not rocket science, just
simple, every day thoughtful acts that you can do for her that will let her know that you are serious about her and the
relationship. Men, these suggestions must come from a heart of love for your precious wife, not just "going through the
motions"! She is so worth it!!
• What does she enjoy for breakfast? Surprise her a couple of times a week with a wonderful wakeup call and a simple
breakfast in bed. Maybe it’s just a good cup of coffee and her favorite jam on toast. I bring my wife a cup of coffee while
she’s in bed every morning.
• How about right before going to bed you give her a tender back rub and tell her how much she means to you. Then
embrace her and go off to sleep without any other expectations
• Open the door for her, whether it’s the car or home or when you are out. When you go out to eat, seat her first by
pulling out the chair for her. Make sure she is comfortable first, before you sit down. Ask her for her order then order
for her.
• After dinner, clean off the table and do the dishes. Invite her to take a rest. Make sure you thanked her for the good
meal.
• Do you have children? Spend time with them playing and having fun. Play games, go on walks and bike rides. Spend
time talking with them and enjoying that relationship. Get on the floor and color, wrestle, make tents, etc.
• Make it a rule that you never, under any circumstances, speak unkindly to her, whether face to face or out in public to
others. Learn to control yourself if you have a temper. Speak kindly to her, with deep respect and admiration.
• Stop the porn and looking at other women!!! If you want to throw cold water on your relationship, keep those things
up. A woman feels violated and humiliated when she feels that your eyes and heart chase after other women… especially
those air-brushed babes in magazines that truly don’t even exist. She can’t compete with them, nor should she feel the
need to!
• What is her favorite dessert? If you can’t make it, go buy it and bring it home. Enjoy some quiet time in the evening with
the dessert, coffee, and good conversation.
• Find out what are her dreams and desires. What would she like to see fulfilled in her life. Then, begin to take some steps
to make that happen.
• Ask your woman, “What would make you feel truly loved, cherished, and honored”. Tell her that you want to know
because you realize that you probably don’t do a real good job in these areas and want to improve.
• Help around the house. Don’t make her a slave to the washing machine, vacuum cleaner, stove, ironing board. Get on
your hands and knees and wash the floor, help out with other household chores.
• Buy some small scented candles and nice bubble bath. Send your woman an e-mail or call her and let her know that you
want her to free up an hour to take a nice hot bubble bath. Put the candles in the bathroom and light them. Draw the
water for her with bubble bath. Put on romantic music. Put some magazines in there for her to look at. While she is
soaking, find a task that you can do to lighten her load.
• When you are in public, hold her hand, put your arm around her. Show others that she is your woman and you are her
man. You are taken up with her and find her altogether lovely.
• Let her catch you staring at her, whether at home or in public. Eye her up and down and let her know how desirable she
is to you.
• Does she enjoy plays, operas, chick-flicks, etc.? Invite her to go out for the evening for a good meal and an event that she
would enjoy.
• Quit taking up so much time with your sports, bar hopping, and continuous guy stuff. You don’t have to stop all of it
totally. But you are probably spending more time on yourself than on her.
• Be her best friend. Develop a totally open and honest relationship with her. Don’t do something in secret that you know
would hurt her or that would make her feel less than honored and loved by you if she were to find out.
• Remember how to ask forgiveness and admit when you have done wrong. Let her know you are truly sorry for
inappropriate actions or words.
• Does she have a particular hobby? Buy a subscription to a magazine that focuses on that hobby. Watch for seminars and
trade shows related to her area of interest and make time to take her.
• Listen to her when she casually mentions something that she really wants. Write it down. Try to find a way to get it for
her and surprise her for no particular reason.
• Learn to be a giver, not a taker. Find at least 3 things that you can do every day to show her how special she is to you.
Every day find several things to genuinely compliment her on. Don’t be fake, she will see right through that!
• Play a board game, card game or put together a puzzle with her. She will appreciate the time with you and some great
laughter and conversation will probably pop up.
• Buy her something intimate and special. Highlight her beauty in ways that is very honoring to her. Make her feel
beautiful and adored.
• Help her by offering to do her nails, brushing her hair, setting out some clothing or lingerie for her. These little items will
be very special for her. You will have a good time doing it!
• Does she like a particular type of candy or chocolate? When you are out, stop in a store and see if they have what she
likes. Put a red ribbon around it with a nice card or note letting her know that you are crazy about her.
• Offer to run errands for her. Give her some time to herself to relax and maybe do something that she has been wanting to
do.
• Give good-bye and greeting kisses and embraces. You can carry those with you throughout the day.
• Send romantic e-mails. If you do it from work, be careful that you are not violating any workplace rules.
• Read to her. I don’t know a woman that does not like to hear her man’s voice when he is reading to her. It’s another
level of communication that she will love.
• Massage her feet. She will really enjoy the intimate attention.
• If you have children, take them out for the day and give her some time to herself.
• Bring home some fresh flowers, perfume, or her favorite bath oils or soaps.
• Buy scented candles or incense to create a wonderful mood.
• Put love notes where she will look; lingerie drawer, on bathroom mirror, on her dashboard, on her pillow, in her
purse, etc.